Updated: Jun 30, 2020
Didn't you just get married?
Yes, and my transition was openly discussed before marriage. My spouse is not attracted to women and neither am I making this a "mixed orientation marriage." This means we both give something up to be together but it’s TOTALLY WORTH IT!!! We are what is known as pan-sexual, which is when you love each other’s hearts, not parts. I truly DO love her with all my heart and feel like her life experiences have prepared her to be with me and vise-vera. She makes me happy beyond measure and I want to spend the rest of my life trying to make her just as happy.
When we got married, we decided that it would be easiest if I "de-transition" for the wedding. Not all of our friends and family were aware of my changes and this saved a lot of explaining. It was also her first wedding and she deserved a chance to be the (only) bride. Plus I had hip replacement surgery scheduled shortly after the ceremony which meant that I would be off hormones for a time. In the end all of our extravagant wedding plans were cancelled due to Covid-19. Not being one to quit easily, my wonderful bride organized a drive-in wedding. Our friends and family gathered in the parking lot of the high school where we met and watched from their cars while eating popcorn and listening to the ceremony on their FM radio. The day turned out better than we could have imagined and 4/20 will forever be my new favorite day!